When working with you as a couple, I work with each of you individually in the presence of the other. Together we work to understand how each of you feels about the relationship and the problems within it. As with individual work, I aim to help each of you become aware of who you really are behind your roles, responsibilities and the social masks you wear. Each of you will then begin to clarify what you and your partner really want, in general and from the relationship.
Often assumptions each partner makes about what the other person thinks and feels are exposed as we work together in this way. Even couples who believe that everything has already been said, say they are surprised by revelations that this form of dialogue can produce.
I don't ever take sides. Sometimes the one thing that couples agree on when they arrive is that one person is the 'guilty party' but I passionately believe that problems in relationships are always co-created. Coming to therapy with the sole objective of sorting out one person definitely won't work! As a relationship is about both of you, it is essential that each of you is prepared to examine their own contribution to whatever problems bring you to therapy.
What do people come to couples counselling for?
What are the benefits?
Couples therapy will be challenging but the potential rewards are enormous. Our conversations will cover all aspects of your relationship and any individual issues either of you have that impinge upon it. Couples counselling can greatly enhance your understanding of yourselves and each other and thereby increase your emotional intimacy and greatly improve your sex life. Couples often report feeling closer to each other, more themselves and more known by their partner than they have ever felt before, even compared to when they first got together.
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